Ask Dr. Barb: Suspected shopping addiction requires careful approach
Dear Dr. Barb: How do I find out if my wife is a shopaholic? She has already started shopping for Christmas. The holidays seem to be the worst time because she has a good reason to spend. My family members have told me that they are often embarrassed because they can’t give to us at the same level that my wife gives to them. They don’t want to upset her or seem ungrateful, so it continues. My wife and my daughter always have the latest clothing and shoes, and each year she donates piles of clothes that still seem to be in great shape to charity. We can afford it, but I can’t help thinking that she buys out of boredom. Our house is beautiful but filled with too many things. What is the best way to approach my wife about this? Should I bother?
— R.L., Mountainside
Dear R.L.: I am very impressed with your thoughtfulness as a concerned and caring husband. You seem to want to approach the issue of your wife’s excessive shopping without jumping to conclusions.