Dear Dr. Barb: My daughter missed out on a very high- profile opportunity because she did some- thing dishonest. Beyond losing the gig, our family has taken a hit with her because her mistake was public in our community. The situation is simply heartbreaking on so many levels. I have been wondering where we went wrong bringing her up. I suspect she has a problem with impulsive behavior. I’m not sure how to ask a question here, but I hope you can shed some light on a troubling situation.
Mistakes are unavoidable. Only in a fantasy world with perfect children and perfect parents are mistakes not made. When raising children, if parents had complete awareness of their children’s needs, they would know better and would make different choices.
Forgive yourself for mistakes you might have made that brought your daughter to her present situation. You did the best you could.
However, wondering about what might have gone wrong may offer some insight as to why she acted the way she did.